The Kitchen Musician ~ April 2011

Hello Friends,

“One More Sail Around the Sun” is a new song that looks backward and forward. I have been thinking about transitions and passages lately. Step into the kitchen. I’ll fix you some tea and tell you about it.

Index:
  Recent News
  This Month’s Song: “One More Sail Around the Sun”
  Upcoming Shows
  Featured Non-Profit: Rosie’s Place

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Tom with Bill Kehoe and Kate Chadbourne ~ Photo: Howard Cannon
Enjoying our Saint Patrick’s Day Songfest at Emerson Umbrella


Recent News:

Margo and I have some great news to share. Our second grandchild, Andrew Hsu arrived last night at about 11:30. Everyone is in great shape. I think I feel another song coming on.


This Month’s Music

One More Sail Around the Sun
© 2011 Tom Smith


Click the image above to play the video.

There was a convergence of emotions in my life last month that somehow all got cooked up into this song. To start, I had my 62nd birthday and celebrated the occasion happily by doing a children’s show at The Amazing Things Arts Center. At this point in my life I only count the birthdays that land on prime numbers, so I can’t explain why this one got me thinking about my own mortality. Perhaps it is because four days later was the twenty-fourth anniversary of my father’s death – a man who died when he was only a little older than I am now.

I have also decided that after seventeen years in my current position at work, I would step down from a leadership role. I am not retiring, only taking a step back in an effort to put my work and personal lives in balance. Although I am very happy with this decision and am confident I will continue to enthusiastically go to work each day, it is nonetheless a bittersweet passage. Memories come to mind of the people I worked with and the joy of working together to reach common goals. My motivation to work has always been much more than for financial gain alone.

Finally, I am trying to fulfill a challenge that I placed on myself to write a song for my wife Margo as we look forward to our thirty-fifth wedding anniversary. We are so fortunate to have each other to share the joys and challenges of married life and to have raised three wonderful children who are now strong and independent adults. My Uncle Delbert would have told us, “You done good.” That is a great feeling – to know that even if I were not around, our children would be alright, but a parent is always a parent even after one’s children are independent. So as we are now “looking back at work well done”, it is another bittersweet celebration.

I guess I have been feeling a little “unstrung” lately. When I was younger, I never would have admitted that in public – ‘stiff upper lip’ and all that. But one side effect of age is a decided softening of one’s upper lip. Some people cope with their feelings by bottling them up (guilty), drinking, misbehaving in their personal lives, or buying expensive toys. Yes I admit to having the thought of buying another expensive guitar recently, but I have instead decided to write a song. When that goes well, it can help one come to a kind of peaceful coexistence pact with feelings. And when it goes very well, it can reflect what others feel and have a similar effect for them. It is good to have high aspirations, and I will leave it to others to say if any of my songs approach that goal. In the mean time, if I were asked to measure the results for this song, I think I will use the words of writer Bill Purdin – “A measure of honest introspection is worth more than an immeasurable pile of pontification.”

Some of my younger friends have called this a sad song. I prefer to describe it as peaceful. In the classic words of parents of many generations, “perhaps you will understand when you get older”.

Wishing you the healing power of music,

~ Tom

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Upcoming Shows

April 16, Saturday, 1:00 – 1:50 pm, Mansfield, MA I return to the New England Folk Festival to share a set with good friends Peter Fischman and Deb O’Hanlon. Our program is entitled Tongue In Cheek – songs of humor and hubris. This will be a lot of fun.

April 16, Saturday, 8:00 pm – midnight, Lizard Lounge, Cambridge, MA I will join other winners of the regular Monday night Lizard Lounge Open Mic Challenge in the semi-annual “Main Event”. This is a single elimination competition, but it is mostly an excuse to get together with other musicians to share good music. This is a 21+ event.

April 18, Monday, 7:30 pm, Emerson Umbrella, Concord, MA I join friends Chris Pahud, Cheryl Perreault and Steve Rapson ‘in the round’ at this long-standing area open mike, hosted by Ellen Schmidt. Our 50 minute feature set starts about 8:30 pm.

April 21, Thursday, 11:00 am, Lasell College, Newton, MA I will be the guest lecturer/performer to discuss and demonstrate how folk music humanizes and deepens our perception of history. Hosted by Lorraine Hammond. This is not open to the public.

April 29, Friday, 8:30 pm, Old Groton Inn, Groton, MA Doing a short set to open for Fran Lamalva at the Friday open mic. Doors at 6:30. Music starts at 7:00 pm.

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Featured Non-Profit: Rosie’s Place

I recently returned from a wonderful event hosted by Ruthann Baler and Strike A Chord Concerts for Charity to support Rosie’s Place, “…a sanctuary for poor and homeless women, [that] offers emergency and long-term assistance to women who have nowhere else to turn.” Ruthann organized a seven hour event that featured over thirty women musicians and artists at a local restaurant.

“Since 1974 poor and homeless women have found an oasis of hope and nourishment at Rosie’s Place. The mission of Rosie’s Place is to help women maintain their dignity, seek opportunity and find security in their lives.

Many of the women we assist are working and in housing but simply can’t make ends meet. Some are newly homeless, while other women have been living on the streets for years. We serve women as young as 18 and as old as 80.”

Let’s keep the momentum going. Join us to support Rosie’s Place.

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5 Comments
  • Tom
    April 10, 2011

    One More Sail Around the Sun
    © 2011 Tom Smith, All Rights Reserved

    A man can value work as measured by his wealth
    And take his share from others to benefit himself
    His life played like a game of zero sum

    I worked to share the joy as the sail climbed up the mast
    While I pulled the sheet with those who bound their passion to the task
    That’s why sailors long for sea when work is done

    CHORUS: (And that’s)
      One more sail around the sun
      One more race that has been run
      One more string to come unstrung
      When work is done

    I recall those days we bounced our little babies on our knees
    How could we be so blessed to share that work of family
    Each day as if our lives had just begun

    Time to us was kind, it turned our winters into springs
    One by one our children felt the wind beneath their wings
    Now we’re looking back at work well done

    CHORUS (And)

    BRIDGE:
      Could it be that life’s a ship out on the sea
      Love came aboard when you chose to sail with me

    What could be the meaning of the turning of a year?
    The end of a beginning, or the end of a career?
    Just a casualty of age to overcome

    Or the launch of an adventure, an old boat set to sea
    Risk one more together, sail this earth with me
    Join our strength for work that’s just begun

    FINAL CHORUS:
      For one more sail around the sun
      One more race that we can run
      One more string that can be strung
      ‘Till work is done

  • Marc Bridge
    April 11, 2011

    Wow Tom! “One More Sail Around The Sun” is absolutely beautiful. A keeper for sure!

  • Amy Conley
    April 15, 2011

    Beautiful song (not to be redundant with Marc B. or anything!) just as all your songs, and very meaningful. Thank you for your blog, as a parent and musician about to see my oldest graduate from high school, I can really relate to it! We are so lucky to have so much music in our lives.
    Tom, I just bought an electric bass. Does this mean I’m dealing with my midlife crisis??? or just coping with my feelings? It’s more that I need some musical changes in my life and am ready to spread my wings as a songwriter and performer in some new directions. And, it was not expensive, it’s not like I bought a Camaro or something! 🙂
    Amy
    =======
    Hello Amy,
    Thank you for your kind comments. Indeed, we are fortunate to have music in our lives. An electric bass sounds like a wonderful purchase. When thinking about cost, consider the cost of alternatives like psychotherapy. Spread your wings! 🙂
    – Tom

  • Carmen Smith
    April 24, 2011

    Mom enjoyed this song very much, she is very proud of you, well done!
    Listening to you music after a lovely Easter dinner at Dale’s house. Love you much from PA

  • Mickey Levine
    April 29, 2011

    Ah, aging – we go back sooooo far together (and apart) – and congrats (again) Grandpa!

    60 just went back for me as well – and our 32nd anniversary is right around the corner. We both watched our kids group up and our late nights and expensive toys become the staples we used to depend on (who needs a $5K guitar when it plays the same notes as a $750 one)? Then again, I’ll need to give Sarabeth her guitar back one of these days when she has enough room! It still brings back so many memories each month listening to your new (and old) additions to your web presence.

    Mickey
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    (Reply from Tom)
    Hi Mickey,
    How nice to hear from you. Yes, we have a wonderful intersection of memories. Great times sharing our music when our kids were just hatching.

    Congratulations to you and Erica on your upcoming wedding anniversary. And there is still a lot of life left on the other side of 60. And if you ask me… I think Sarabeth can do without a guitar for a little while longer.

    Wishing you, Erica, Sarabeth and Jesse the very best.

    ~ Tom